The words above, famously uttered by Henry David Thoreau, have always hit me particularly hard.  Perhaps this is because I was in the mass of men.

For much of my life, I lived in quiet desperation.  Depressed. Hopeless. Yearning for something more.

That is, until I decided to change.

My name is Tony Endelman. I am an author, blogger, entrepreneur, certified transformational life coach and one of Dr. Robert Glover’s certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coaches.

I am also the founder of The Integrated Man Cave.

I created The Integrated Man Cave out of both passion and frustration: Passion for psychology, growth, self-discovery, coaching, and community. Frustration over the lack of quality resources available to men, particularly those who want to change their lives from the inside out.

The Integrated Man Cave is a work in progress – and it always will be.  But, so are you.  And, so am I.

Welcome to The Integrated Man Cave. I hope you’ll stay a while. More importantly, I hope you’ll gain something of value, make meaningful connections, and start taking steps towards creating the life you deserve.


If you feel unfulfilled and wonder why nothing seems to go your way, I can relate. I struggled in nearly every aspect of my life, failing to see the world as a place of abundance. I struggled in my career, taking one miserable job after another because I thought it was the only way I’d pay the bills. I struggled in my relationships, constantly falling for the wrong people because I thought I had to put up with shit to be loved. I struggled to set goals because, well…I really didn’t see the point. Many days, I struggled just to get out of bed.

In 2013, my father, who was the picture of health, died suddenly and unexpectedly while exercising at the gym. For better or worse, this sent me down a path of deep self-exploration, on which I realized that life is simply too short and too unpredictable to settle for anything less than what you truly want.

In 2015, I worked for transformational journalist and nine-time New York Times bestselling author, Neil Strauss (The GameThe TruthEverybody Loves You When You’re Dead).  Neil taught me the importance of stepping outside your comfort zone, facing your fears, and taking action.

In 2016, I became both a certified life coach and one of Dr. Robert Glover’s certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coaches. I have personally coached hundreds of men, in both 1-on-1 and group settings. I am lucky to call Dr. Robert Glover both a mentor and a friend.

My personal essays have been featured in The Huffington PostLifehack, Thought CatalogThrive Global, Elephant JournalYourTango, The Good Men Project, Mindvalley,  and other places.

I currently live in New Orleans, La.


The Integrated Man Cave is a self-development website and supportive community for men who wish to improve all aspects of their lives – from dating and relationships to emotional well-being.  Our mission is to provide only the highest quality resources and inspire men from all corners of the world to live better and more boldly while learning to become fully integrated.

The Integrated Man Cave is NOT affiliated with the pick-up artist community; nor are we affiliated with movements like MGTOW and Incel.



Charles Browne is a certified peak performance coach, certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach, and recovering over-thinker.  He is also a senior nuclear reactor operator, project management professional, Lean/Six Sigma master black belt, submarine warfare veteran, open water rescue swimmer, adventurer, obstacle course enthusiast, lifelong martial artist, and serial entrepreneur.  Charles specializes in helping high-achieving men discover their identity and purpose, master their leadership skills, and navigate life after divorce.


Robert Johnson is a former Playboy executive, certified NMMNG coach, and certified clinical sexologist with a doctorate in Human Sexuality. During his time working at Playboy and Vivid Entertainment, Robert overcame his own anxieties and learned to confidently engage with some of the world’s most beautiful women. Now, Robert helps 21st-century males shed their Nice Guy skin and evolve into men again by embracing the best parts of traditional grounded masculinity. Using the world as his lab, Robert brings decades of personal experience to the Integrated Man Cave and to his own personal coaching practice. Visit Robert’s website.


Kip Brooks is a certified Trainer and Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming, and holds certificates in Mental and Emotional Release® and Hypnosis from the Association for Integrative Psychology. He is a John Maxwell certified speaker, sales trainer and coach and holds certificates in youth empowerment by YouthMax and YouthMax Plus. He is also certified by the Life Coach Training Institute and is trained and certified in Neuroscience, Soul Healing and Healing Touch. Kip founded the Brooks Empowerment Academy  with his wife Marina.


Sean Harley is a professional body-builder, fitness model, certified personal trainer, mind-body coach, and the owner of Rock Solid Nutrition. He has dedicated his life to improving the health and well-being of others.  With his proven coaching methods, Sean has helped thousands of men and women take back control of both their bodies and their minds. He has been featured in countless fitness magazines, including Iron ManMuscle & Fitness, and Physique.  Additionally, Sean sits on the Board of Directors for the National Service Institute at Healthnovations International, a global nonprofit that works to provide wellness solutions for disabled veterans and other vulnerable populations.

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